6 Biblical Meanings for Dreaming About Your Ex

Spiritual dreams are an exciting way for God to speak to his children. God desires to speak to us about everything and He wants us to hear him clearly. So, be confident that God wants you to understand your dream and be perseverant in seeking him for meanings!

Also, I would love to help you in the process as well, you can click here to share your dream (or a prayer request). I will try my best, but remember that God wants YOU to grow in intimacy with him… So, sometimes you’ll have to pray and wait for him to reveal the interpretation.

Related Article: 6 Steps To Interpret Christian Dreams To Hear God Speak!

1. Your EX Represents Something Else

The Bible is littered with examples of God using riddles and parables to deliver a symbolic message. Similarly, your dream might have a hidden mystery and your EX might be a symbolic representation. A symbol is “a thing that represents or stands for something else, especially a material object representing something abstract,” according to Oxford Languages.

Your ex may symbolically represent:

1. your attachment to past events, people, and emotions, due to unprocessed emotions related to the relationship.
2. your ex may represent your desire for love, connection, sex, or intimacy
3. the way you view relationships and how relationships affect you.
4. the way you view that gender, which can be in a positive or negative light.
5. your relationship fears might unfold in your dreams.
6. your dream might reveal that your ex has become an idol that you’re obsessing about

2. You Have Unresolved Emotions

You may also be dreaming about your ex because you have unrealized and unhealed emotions.

Start by evaluating the main emotion in the dream: Were you sad? Angry? Afraid? Hopeless? Lustful? Happy? Or Jealous? The emotions in the dream are usually the area that you’ll need healing in.

Our dreams can show us emotions within us that we maybe unaware of. For example, In a dream, I was angry. In the dream, God told me to let go of what my ex did to me. I said, “Everything? Even though he did all that?” The voice in the dream replied, “Everything.”  Defiantly I replied, “Just like that?  *insinuating he didn’t deserve it*” Then God’s voice in the dream said, “Just like that. Let go of everything.”

These types of dreams are a chance to heal and become a more authentic and healthy version of ourselves. If your dream is about unresolved emotions then you can begin seeking help to heal. This could involve seeking support from a therapist or counselor, journaling, or practicing self-care activities that promote emotional healing and well-being.

Related QUIZ: Are You Carrying Emotional Baggage?

“He heals the brokenhearted, and bind up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

3. Unresolved Emotions Are Affecting You

If you read reason #2 and figured out the unhealed emotion you are dreaming about then it’s time to evaluate how that emotion is still affecting your life. Do you miss them and want them back? Do you feel like every partner will treat you the same? Are you afraid of speaking your mind in new relationships?

Do you always have your guard up now because you’re scared? Are you in a new relationship that is triggering your wounds? Did you become more insecure, scared, and damaged because of the relationship with your ex? Have you forgiven your ex? Does unwanted memories of your ex pop up? Do you want to rekindle with your ex? Are you lonely and desiring connection or sex?

How the emotion ties to your current situation can help you break a pattern of behavior and thinking.

For example, I once had an issue with a friend that was expecting too much from me emotionally. It caused me to feel guilty and physically sick because I couldn’t make her feel better. Then I had a dream about my EX which explained the root cause of my anxiety. In the dream, He was blaming me for the moments he didn’t feel happy and loved. I realized that my ex’s verbal abuse was the root of my fear of saying NO and disappointing others.

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30

4. It’s A Prophetic Dream

You may be dreaming about something that is currently happening or will happen in the future. The goal is to figure out what God wants to tell you. Is God warning you about your ex? Or Is God revealing that you and your ex will reconnect?

Here are a few signs that your dream is prophetic:

• If you have a good track record of hearing God
• you aren’t focused on getting what you want
• you’ve evaluated the dream for unresolved emotions
• you’re at peace with waiting on God for the full meaning
• To be sure, please read these 22 Signs God Is Speaking To You + Scriptures!

“For the Lord God does nothing without revealing his secret to his servants the prophets.” Amos 3:7 

5. It’s A Warning

You may be dreaming about your ex because they are about to try and re-enter your life. The dream might be warning you to stay FAR away from them.

In real life, my ex tried to reconnect with me. However, he mostly spoke about how much better I was than his current girlfriend. I realized that he wasn’t trying to reconnect. He was only trying to get his needs met because his girlfriend wasn’t doing it at the time. Although I had no intention of getting back with him, it was the first time I fully realized that he only loved me when I made him feel good.

After speaking with him, I found a dream in my journal where he was so obsessed with himself that he was kissing himself. He flirted with me for a second, but then blew me off to go back with the woman he was with. The dream helped me to finally realize that it’s possible for people to be dangerously selfish. The dream made me realize he didn’t miss me, but he missed being able to drain me for his own selfish gain.

6. A Call to Prayer

Sometimes you are dreaming about your ex because it’s a prophetic dream that is alerting you to pray for them. You’ll usually know it’s a call to pray when it’s very realistic, you feel confident to pray, and the dream is more centered on their life than yours.

I’ve once dreamt that my ex was in a relationship problem that resulted in legal trouble. A few months later, the situation proved to be very true. The truth is, I would have never guessed he would be in that situation, but God knew.

Our job is to pray, even if the situation does or doesn’t come true. Regardless of what happens, our prayers make a difference. Sometimes our prayers reduce the damage that could have happened. Either way, we can be confident that God will show up in a meaningful way.

Related Article: 18 Reasons Prayer Is Important + Scriptures

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex boyfriend or girlfriend?
You maybe dreaming of your ex girlfriend or boyfriend because you have unhealed emotions OR they represent someone or something from the past that needs to be changed in your current circumstances. The dream serves as a reminder to let go of the past, allowing you to fully embrace the newness and opportunities of your present life. Alternatively, it may indicate a need for closure in this area, urging you to address any unresolved issues or emotions tied to your past relationship. By acknowledging and working through these aspects, you can experience spiritual growth and move forward with greater clarity and freedom.

Why are you dreaming about an ex you don’t talk to anymore?
You maybe dreaming about an ex you don’t speak with because you have unresolved emotions that are causing an unhealthy relationships pattern in your present day life. It’s time you break the cycle, start the closure process, and get true healing.

Why am I dreaming of my ex with someone else?
Dreaming of your ex with another woman or man means you maybe struggling with grief, jealousy, and regret due to the loss. Also, dreaming of your ex with someone else represents a need for closure and healing. It’s time for you to move on from this broken state and the trauma from the relationship. Take note of your emotions in the dream because it will help you understand what emotions you are needing to purge from your life.

What is the biblical meaning of dreaming about your deceased ex?
You may feel sorrow, regret, and sadness because you haven’t gotten closure from the relationship with your deceased ex. These dreams are usually caused by a lack of closure within the situation. Perhaps, the dreams are God’s special way of giving you moments with your deceased ex while on your healing process? Either way, it’s time to release your ex and yourself from any past emotions and situations.

What is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex husband?
The spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex husband is unresolved emotions or unfinished business related to your past relationship. You may be dreaming about your ex husband because you may have unresolved emotions, he is a symbol for something in your past you’re attached to, God may be calling you to pray, and/or it may be a prophetic picture of what is happening or what is to come.

What does it mean if you are dreaming of sleeping with your ex?
Dreaming of sleeping with your ex can have different meanings depending on the individual and the specific context of the dream. Dreams about your ex can point to unfulfillment or a desire for the emotional connection or intimacy you experienced with your ex in the past. The dream may be reflecting a longing for those positive feelings and experiences.

However, it’s important to consider that dreaming of sleeping with your ex could also be a cautionary sign. It may indicate that you are becoming entangled with behaviors, emotions, or even people from your past that you should distance yourself from. It could be a reminder to break away from unhealthy patterns or relationships that are no longer serving your well-being.

What is the biblical meaning of dreaming about your ex dying?
Dreaming about your ex dying can have different interpretations depending on the context. On one hand, the biblical meaning of dreaming about your ex dying could symbolize leaving your past behind and embracing new beginnings in your relationships and emotional well-being. It signifies a transition from what was to what will be, which can be an exciting prospect.

Why am I dreaming about my ex if I’m married?
If you find yourself dreaming about your ex while being married, it may be a sign that you need to seek emotional healing. These dreams could be indicating that there may be unresolved emotions or vulnerabilities within your heart. It is crucial to address these feelings and seek healing to avoid falling into temptations that may not honor God or your marriage.

It’s important to be mindful that affairs can manifest in various forms, not only involving other individuals. They can also occur through fantasies, excessive focus on work, preoccupation with children, or any behavior that hinders genuine emotional intimacy with your spouse. By seeking emotional healing, you can prevent the temptation to seek fulfillment in ways that may jeopardize your marriage.

Remember, investing in true emotional intimacy with your spouse is essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.