Embrace Your Crown: My Journey to Loving My Natural Hair!

“You have good hair.” These are the words that I always dreamed to hear when I was a child and a teenager. I always wanted naturally curly, wavy, big hair that many girls I knew had. When I was in the 4th and 5th grade I actually used to put a skirt on my head while I was home just to stimulate the feeling of having long hair on my head.

My hair remained in its tight, short, and natural state until I went to the salon and paid for a relaxer in the 11th grade. The first time my hair was relaxed I was in love with it. It was always smooth and silky. The length was even a little bit passed my shoulders. I often received compliments about it. After graduating high school I got tired of it and let my hair go back to its natural state.

After two years of having my natural hair back, I started to again grow tired of it and quickly fell out of love with it. 

Related Article: 7 Tips To Let Your Beauty Within Shine

I used so many products in it that I ran out of brands and styles to try. I did twist outs, Bantu knots, braid outs, comb coils, wash and goes, faux locs, twists, high buns, braids, and so much more. I was basically done with my natural hair. I thought about putting a relaxer in my hair again but didn’t really want to. I just did not know what to do with my hair. Some people suggested that I start wearing wigs, or straighten my hair more often, but I didn’t want to do those things either.

It wasn’t until 4 years ago that I decided to loc my hair. I was inspired by several female YouTubers who wear their dreadlocks with so much pride. The only person who really supported the idea and was positive about it is my husband, everyone else just gave me negative feedback.

I decided to just do it! The first two years I kept twisting my hair and taking it out after 3 months because I was paranoid about how it was beginning to look. I just could not get passed the “starter loc phase.” I finally got passed that stage in March of 2018 when I went to the salon to have my hair professionally locked using the comb coil method. I never looked back since then.

Related Article: 5 Secrets To Feeling Loved Daily!

Having dreadlocks gives me confidence in myself that I never knew I had. I literally do not worry too much if my hair is nappy or in need of a retwist. I have learned to embrace my natural hair in a way that I never imagined I could. I truly love the crown that sits on my head and how I look with my hair in any and every style. I also love the encouragement and support that other women and men with dreads give me and one another. Not only that, but maintenance is stress-free. I wash my hair once a week or every two weeks, I retwist every 6-8 weeks, I oil my scalp once or twice a week, and I style my hair when I feel like it. The feeling of waking up and not having to worry about doing my hair is amazing!

I am finally content and love the hair that God has blessed me with.

Related Article: 4 Ways To Attract Mr. Right

I have had a lot of people tell me that they’re considering getting dreads. I always say to just do it and don’t look back. It’s not permanent and can be combed out, but if you do it and get passed that awkward starter loc stage you will most likely be grateful for making that leap.

Whether you have dreadlocks, naturally loose hair, relaxed hair, short hair, a short haircut, curly hair, or if you rock the bald look. Love it and take pride in it, because it’s your crown!