130+ Healing Affirmations for Codependents In Recovery

As a recovering codependent, I often struggle with trusting my own mind. I often need people around me to tell me I’m not crazy and I have the ability to make my life into the masterpiece I want. Eventually I realized, I won’t need as many encouragements from people if I practice positive self-talk specifically for my codependency weaknesses.

I targeted 6 root causes that codependents usually struggle with when I created these affirmations for YOU!

My sweet friend, I use these affirmations too. I’m constantly re-wiring my mind with these mantras and reminding myself that I’m healed because staying healthy is a life long journey and not a quick sprint.

Affirmations to Heal Codependency

• I am worthy of love just as I am.
• I set boundaries that honor my needs and feelings.
• I let go of trying to fix others and focus on myself.
• I trust my instincts and value my opinions.
• I attract healthy relationships that uplift and support me.
• I will not make decisions based on guilt and shame.
• I will not say yes because I fear their negative emotions.
• I will respect my no and stop second guessing myself.

Embracing Self-compassion and Relaxation

Prioritizing Self-care

• I will not tiptoe around the feelings of others.
• I do not have to constantly consider the emotions of others.
• I did it for the right reason, so I don’t need to second-guess my intentions constantly.
• I will drop my shoulders, unclench my jaws, and relax.
• There is no reason to worry.
• I can’t prevent fate from happening, so I will do my best and let life take it from there.
• I prioritize self-care as an essential component of my well-being.
• I listen to my body and honor its needs with kindness and compassion.
• Self-care is not selfish; it is a necessary investment in my physical, emotional, and mental health.
• I will treat myself kindly and do something nice for myself as I calm down.
• I am breathing easy, and my body is light and relaxed.
• I will stretch my arms and release the tension in my shoulders.
• I deserve to have people in my life that encourage me.
• God loves them more than I do.

False Responsibility

Letting Go of Burdens

• I am doing enough.
• I have always done my best.
• I am not responsible for the pain of others.
• I did the best I could with the information I had.
• I did my best and I trust God to handle the rest.
• Thank you, Father, for guiding them and helping them to release their burden.
• I will release my shame and guilt for God to heal.
• I will not shame myself for doing what I thought was best at the moment.
• I do not hurt people on purpose.

Forgiving Yourself

• I forgive myself for past mistakes and embrace each new day as an opportunity for growth.
• My worthiness is not diminished by my imperfections; I am deserving of love and acceptance.

Self-Value and Self-Respect

Embracing Self-Worth

• I live with pure intentions.
• I can trust my experience of the situation.
• I am not stuck, and I have choices.
• I have valuable opinions and thoughts.
• I deserve to be respected by the people I love.
• My standards for relationships and friendships are high because I give my whole heart.
• I am more than the opinions and thoughts of others.

Clarity and Self-assurance

Asserting Clarity

• I see their actions clearly, and I don’t deserve that.
• I am not confused, and I know how to handle this situation accurately.
• The negative perspectives and thoughts that others have about me are inaccurate.
• I can trust my gut when it tells me something isn’t right.
• I can make decisions without having to explain myself to anyone.

Self-Awareness

Acknowledging Feelings

• I will not ignore nor dismiss my pain because I understand their pain too.
• I don’t have to understand my feelings for them to be valid.
• My confusion and highly intense emotions will simmer down soon.
• I am on the right track even if I feel confused.
• I will write down what I know is true about myself and the situation to stay anchored.
• I am stronger than these emotions!

Recognizing Patterns

• I am becoming more aware of the patterns and dynamics in my relationships.
• Each day, I deepen my understanding of how past experiences influence my present behaviors.
• I embrace self-reflection as a powerful tool for growth and transformation.

Identifying Triggers

4. I recognize my triggers and respond to them with compassion and understanding.
5. I am learning to pause and assess my emotions before reacting impulsively.
6. My awareness of triggers empowers me to make conscious choices aligned with my well-being.

Setting Boundaries and Asserting Autonomy

Boundaries and Self-Respect

• I am allowed to have my own perspective even if I understand their side of the issue.
• I will respect their reality, but I will request that my reality is respected too.
• It is okay for me to allow others to deal with the consequences of their actions. I don’t have to fix it.
• I will not take responsibility for the arguments that others caused.
• I do not have to help in easing anyone’s pain If I’m feeling emotional.

Establishing Limits

• I can set limits and boundaries with people that I don’t want to have total access to my time, money, feelings, talents, and physical space.
• I will not apologize or accept false guilt when I didn’t do anything wrong.
• I will try my best to avoid being with an explosive and argumentative person in the future.
• I will only give others what I can and not what makes me tired or bitter.
• I am allowed to stop sharing personal information with people that judge me.
• I don’t have to accept advice from people I don’t trust.
• I am allowed to answer the phone when I want to.
• I don’t have to talk to anyone that makes me feel uncomfortable.

Setting Boundaries

• I am only responsible for my actions.
• I am allowed to say NO without being questioned and harassed.
• I don’t have to anticipate the needs of everyone around me.
• I don’t have to protect everyone from getting hurt.
• I am allowed to make a mistake and re-adjust how I behave next time.
• What’s wrong is wrong. I don’t need to excuse their behavior; they can change or apologize.
• I am not a bad person because I realized that they’re broken.
• It is not my job to make others feel better.

Empathic Codependents

• My empathy is a gift, but I will not let it overwhelm me.
• I love my sensitivity and use it to understand others without losing myself.
• I recognize that boundaries are essential for protecting my energy and well-being.
• I honor my own needs and emotions, even as I empathize with those of others.
• I release the need to absorb the pain of others.
• I will offer compassionate support from a place of strength.
• I trust my intuition to guide me in setting healthy boundaries and knowing when to step back.
• My empathy does not define me; I am a multifaceted individual with unique strengths and talents.
• I will strengthen my bond with individuals who value my presence beyond my empathy.
• I am capable of nurturing others without sacrificing my own needs and boundaries.

Positive Relationships and Boundaries

Cultivating Healthy Connections

• My true friends will always try to think the best of me and see the gold within me.
• I am worthy of kind, patient, selfless, and amazing friends.
• I have the ability and choice to leave friendships and relationships that don’t work for me.
• I am allowed to find new friends or a partner that fit my positive and healthy lifestyle.
• I am allowed to disagree with someone’s opinion or advice.
• I am not disobedient because I chose my path.

Self-Affirmation and Gratitude

Acknowledging Personal Growth

• I am happy, and there are great experiences waiting for me.
• I do not have to prove that my intentions were pure to myself or anyone. God sees my heart.

Self-empowerment

Owning Your Story

• I reclaim my power by taking ownership of my story and rewriting it with courage and resilience.
• Each challenge I overcome strengthens my sense of self-worth and empowerment.
• I trust in my ability to navigate life’s obstacles and create the future I desire.

Cultivating Confidence

• I believe in my capabilities and trust myself to make decisions that align with my values and goals.
• Confidence grows within me with each step I take outside of my comfort zone.
• I release self-doubt and embrace the confidence that resides within me.

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Trust and Acceptance

Trusting the Process

• I am NOT afraid of challenging situations.
• I will not worry about losing the people that love me.
• If I’m a good person and trust God, the right people will remain in my life.
• I do not control the actions of others.
• I am not to blame for their bad behaviors.
• I will try my best to love others, but it’s not my responsibility to make them feel loved.

“Love will come to me and I don’t have to manipulate anyone to get it.

Coping Mechanisms

• I do not need alcohol or drugs to improve my mood.
• My mind is a safe place, and I don’t have to run away from my thoughts.
• Just because I feel an emotion doesn’t mean I have to act on it.
• My emotions are like a wave; they will come and go swiftly.

Pursuing Wellness

• I can experience happiness without relying on a partner or friend.
• I am hard at work on my dreams and goals.
• I deserve to experience happiness and hope.
• I will not isolate and drown myself in self-pity.

Seeking Support

Utilizing Resources

• Therapy is a good option if I need expert advice to get emotionally unstuck.
• I can explore avenues to feel better even when my support system is unavailable.
• I will allow my support system to be there for me in a healthy way.
• I am not weak because I need therapy or psychiatric medication.
• I will fight to see myself as pure, safe, and loved.
• Love will come to me, and I don’t have to manipulate anyone to get it.
• I am allowed to get others involved to help me leave an unhealthy relationship.

6 Signs You’re Codependent

• Codependents often lack self love and heathy self-esteem: I realized I allowed people to treat me poorly when I didn’t value myself.
• Codependents are often worrying about everyone’s problems and trying to fix all the issues around them: I realized that it isn’t my job to fix people’s problems or messes. Sometimes people need to experience the stress of a situation, so that they can learn a valuable life lesson.
• People-pleasing is often a tactic used by codependents to ensure people like them and they don’t make others upset: I learned that I don’t have to make people feel good or comfortable all the time. I also learned that people pleasing is a form of control and people will eventually show their true colors no matter how much I cater to them.
• Many people that struggle with codependency need to feel needed: By fixing others and focusing on what everyone else’s emotional needs we tend to feel important, but that isn’t real love. We must learn to feel loved for our personalities and souls FIRST.
• People will learn to survive if the codependent doesn’t always take charge: The codependent often thinks they’re needed to help resolve or avoid problems. However, life brings the right people and situations to help people along in their journey. We are not God and don’t need to overly involve ourselves in any situation.
• Empaths have a high likelihood of become codependents: feeling the pain of others and remaining inactive is hard. However, empaths tend to attract individuals with severe brokenness when they don’t have a limit to their physical and emotional treasures.

6 Levels of Codependency Recovery

In my personal journey, I have found that the major sign you’re healing from codependency is you become aware of your own habits and the habits of others. I also realized that codependency healing happens in stages. Here are the 6 stages that I experienced:

In level 1 of my codependency recovery journey, I realized what codependence was.
In level 2, I learned I was attracting toxic partners because I was filling their emotional needs and voids.
In level 3, I realized that I had the ability to say no and set boundaries. Also, I don’t have to please everyone!
In level 4, I started seeing how controlling, manipulative, and aggressive the people around me are when I started using “no” and setting boundaries. I became aware that I run to new codependent relationships for advice which is an unhealthy way to deal with the pain of old codependent relationships.
In level 5, I stopped feeling guilty and ashamed for staying on the path to healing. I started trusting my opinions and decisions, so I stopped desperately needing everyone to guide me.
In level 6, I realized that I’m worthy of RESPECT and LOVE, which means I don’t have to people-please to get it. The right people will gravitate to me and the wrong ones God will remove. Now, I continue to learn different strategies to avoid people-pleasing and avoiding manipulative people forcing me to be their codependent friend or partner. And I’m constantly developing my confidence and sticking to boundaries, personal peace, and healing.